I don’t think he’s ready for a relationship right now and that’s fine. I’m not sure if you agree? I would just prefer to keep my dignity, and if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. I believe a man should be chasing and romancing a woman. One day, perhaps we can be friends, but I can’t be someone who chases a guy who isn’t sure what he wants and where he wants to be… I do care for him and wish him the best and hope everything works out for him and hopefully we can be friends, and who knows what the future holds, but I don’t want to chase him. So I decided to go no contact and not reach out after that one time. He had two bad relationships (one was a marriage where he was cheated on) and they said they think the women chased him both times. We have mutual friends, and they tell me he really needs to get his life together, that he’s very lost and selfish and can’t seem to think about anyone other than himself and his issues. It was (still is) really upsetting, but I told myself that I should not reach out to him. I phoned him once after our last date to see how he was, and if he wanted to meet up, and never heard back. Long story short, he did something wrong, then came back and apologized and said he only wanted to be with me, we had a great talk, a great few phone calls after that, hung out and had a great date, then he disappeared and never called me again. Get in touch with Kimberly by joining her mailing list to receive more recommendations on health, beauty, and wellness. Give yourself the gift of living your life.Īnd if he really loves you, then a few years down the line he will come knocking.Īnd if it’s not mean to be, well then you’ll have made the necessary space for yourself and your next man. So, if you’re struggling to let go of someone that you potentially see yourself with in the future, but the relationship isn’t working out because he isn’t ready or he isn’t giving you what you want, do yourself a favor and gracefully let him go. Especially if the relationship ended on positive, benevolent terms.Īnd if another women comes into his life, well then, it just wasn’t right. But after living your life, then you’ll have found another man too. Secondly, men don’t forget about the women they fall hard for. If he wants you, and if the relationship ended gracefully, then he’ll reach out to you when and if he’s ever ready. And even when you’re not friends on Facebook or Instagram, they still have your cell phone number! You ask: “But how do know that he’ll come back?”įirstly, in the 21st century, it’s really hard to lose touch with people.Ī decade ago, friends and lovers and neighbors and colleagues would disappear into the ether of history now, they disappear into the ether of social media or Google. The future without him holds so many possibilities. Perhaps you’ll have gotten into great shape. And what a life you’ll have lived after doing your thing.
You: the one who was sexy and secure enough to go live her own life. If the attraction was real, and he felt what you felt, then he won’t forget about you.
There is no need to hang around and wait.Ī graceful goodbye is key: no angry text messages, no needy midnight phone calls, no flirty Facebook chats. In such cases, sometimes it’s best to let a potential partner go. You see, men are not always ready for what we are looking for…sometimes they’re still getting over another woman sometimes they’re focused on their job and making a living for themselves sometimes they are still figuring themselves out. If it’s right, if it’s meant to be, the man you’re lusting over right now will come back around.
Over the course of my dating life, there’s something I’ve learned about relationships.